Sometimes, I contemplate experiences that I’ve had in my life. And, I wonder “Why did I take that for granted?”. It makes me think more about being present, more mindful, in the moment.
Here’s what I mean. As we age, we pass through different stages in our lives. Friendships, family, and relationships tend to mutate as you move through the changes. When you’re single, you tend to gravitate towards single people. It’s natural to want to be with folks that are living the same lifestyle as you. You like to do single people things.
When you’re married, or when you’re a young parent, you will develop friendships with people who are at a similar stage in their life. You don’t plan for relationships to change, they just do. You may be close to a friend when you’re both single, going out, doing things together. Then, when you become a parent, you find that you just don’t have much in common with them anymore. It’s natural to form new friendships and for these earlier bonds to fade.
It’s a part of life, but it’s still a bit sad. There’s the saying that some people are in your life for a reason, and some for a season. Sometimes you’re lucky, and you can find a friend to drag through life with you. Every once in a while, I mourn for a moment that I took for granted with someone.
In the break room exchanging views on life with Erin. Having lunch with Amy, and taking road trips with Catie. Having ice cream in Scotland with Scott, Lesley and Iain. Seeing Diane talk in sign language with her customers. The time Travis caught that bird. The time I laughed so hard with David that we couldn’t finish dinner. I miss all the great bosses I’ve had. All the amazing coworkers I’ve been blessed with over the years. Above all, the joys I had with my kids when they were little. We don’t realize at the time how precious those connections are.
It’s not that you “break up”. Erin and I are still friends. We just don’t work together anymore. She lives pretty far away, and is a young mother. The opportunity to have lunch together and get all the problems of the world settled is just not there. We don’t even get to talk much. It feels like those moments are in an alternate universe now.
And, of course, we make new friendships, and connect, and adapt. I don’t mean to sound so glum. I don’t think that these thoughts are unique to me. It’s just a realization that’s part of the aging process, I guess. Maybe it’s just a case of reminiscing about “the good old days”. We all do that from time to time.
So… life continues. That’s beautiful, especially considering the alternatives! Let’s not get bogged down in stress and schedules. Let’s be aware of the people and good times in our lives. We may miss them some day…