I once had a friend that was a widow with two daughters, two stepdaughters, and a strong resolve not to get entangled in any romantic situations. She was “pretty plus” like myself. She had a beautiful smile and was fun to be with. She moved away, her daughters and stepdaughters grew up, and we fell out of touch.
I ran into a mutual friend of ours, who told me that the last time they saw her, she was wearing a size 1, and had gone off to live on an island with someone named Ben. It amazes me to think that she had a whole other life to live. It never occurred to me that she could be completely different from the person that I knew all that time.
Motivational speakers will insist that you can steer the course of your life, and begin anew with the promise of each day. I have heard Deepak Chopra assert that you can actually change the past through meditation and determination. These ideas seem fantastic, when most of us feel stuck in the proverbial rut.
So, without launching a discussion on quantum physics (we will save that for another time) Do we actually have the ability to reinvent ourselves?