One of my favorite quotes is:
“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself”
When I was checking on the source for this quote, it looks like Suzanne Somers gets the most votes. We had Tony Robbins in the mix, along with TD Jakes. Well, it deserves deep consideration, no matter who authored it.
I’ve held a grudge. I’ve fed it and nurtured it. I’ve felt the burn. The person holding the grudge will always feel worse than the target of the anger and resentment. If you are stubborn and slow to forgive, it will always hurt you more than anyone else.
I know it takes so much effort to forgive immediately and with sincerity, but the pay off is huge!
While we’re on the topic of forgiving, it’s okay to hold yourself to a high standard of ethics or morality. But, we are human, and sometimes we hurt other people, even if we don’t mean to. Be quick to forgive yourself in the midst of your guilt trip.
The usual form of an apology is: “I’m sorry that I got angry, BUT….” Make your statement and then stop. Don’t qualify your feelings and take the argument to the next level. If you have a fight with a friend, both parties should apologize. That’s what friends do. It’s called making up.
Resolving a rift between friends can put you right on the mountaintop. It feels blissful to bring restoration to a broken relationship. You’ll be wondering why you waited so long!
Just a word of caution. Remember, that while your feelings of forgiveness towards someone may feel right to you, they may take time to bring a resolution. Your words and gestures of apology may not be returned right away, if at all. Forgive anyway. You can only control your side of the equation. This is something that we must learn from. It’s part of life. This is what it means to be accountable; to accept the consequences of your actions.
Who can you forgive today? Give yourself a gift and get started.